You know you're an offbeat bride when…
By Cassie…
…you ask your engaged friend, "What are your centerpieces going to be, and how are you making them?" and she looks at you funny and says the florist is bringing them. Then you remember, oh yeah, centerpieces are traditionally beautiful flower arrangements brought in by florists, not the homemade concoctions made from a combination of dried gourds, vintage buttons, wind-up toys, and mini cast-iron bicycles that you were planning on.
…your relatives think your engagement must be off just because they can't find a wedding website/registry for you on The Knot.
…you ask a bride-to-be what color her dress is and she says, "Like, do you mean ivory vs. white?" and you remember not everyone considers red/purple/rainbow/polka-dotted dresses for their wedding day.
…when you mention you're getting married, strangers, store clerks, and vendors give your bare ring finger a long look mixed with pity and suspicion.
…your engaged friend plans a 5-hour-long mimosa/hair appointment the day of the wedding and you remember not all brides plan to spend their pre-wedding time carting in the alcohol, dishes, glasses, decorations, etc. to the DIY reception site.
…your friend asks, "What are your colors?" and you stare at her blankly for 10 minutes because you have no idea what the heck she's talking about.
…friends are not amused when they ask what your theme is and you say, "Um…getting married?"
…friends and family announce "Yourname Hislastname!" and then say how good it sounds before you can stop them and explain you're keeping your own name.
…friends are not amused when they ask what your theme is and you say, "Um…getting married?"
…a coworker asks, "Have you found a church yet?" and you respond, "For what?"
…your toilet tank conspicuously lacks a stack of thick bridal magazines, and instead features a funny little blue book by some chick who has "Meadow" in her name.
And finally, you know you're an offbeat bride when you accept and celebrate your best friend's uber-traditional wedding, because that is what she wants and that is just awesome for her. And then you go out searching for the perfect set of hot pink and purple polka-dotted frogs for your cake topper and all is well in the world.
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I just love that it's a community of independent thinkers. I like encouraging people to be unique because it makes the world more interesting... ya know?? I don't think anything at all is wrong with a traditional wedding. Wear white! Get married in a church! Have a first dance! Feed each other cake while we all take pictures! Have monogramed napkins and a buffet dinner and throw your flowers!
BUT ONLY DO IT BECAUSE YOU LOVE IT!
Don't do it because you think it's supposed to be in a wedding! Do it if it has meaning to you!
I feel very strongly about this! The focus can get totally diffused onto other things (and other stressors) if you aren't careful. The focus of the day has to be TOTALLY on the ONE reason that you are having the day in the first place. What is your wedding day? It is the day that you make a promise to the one person that you love most that you will always love them most and be a team throughout life.
Do you need monogramed napkins in order to make this promise possible? HECK NO!
So follow your heart on your wedding day and only do what has special meaning to you and your honey. Throw everything else out the window. No one will notice what is missing.
They'll only notice how happy you look as you look into each other's eyes.
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